The role of victim is all too familiar to many of us. We've done the act, and we've done it well! Yes, we've been treated unjustly, - or we've thought we have. As a result, we have passively waited for circumstances to change. This we've done with the bottle, with the pills, or by blaming others for what has been our feelings and attitudes. Nothing was our fault. We were willing participants to victimization. This is not easy to accept, but is true nonetheless.Now we choose to not be victims. Victims make bullies. Victims make bullies the kind of bullies victims want them to be. ... A bully will move from room to room. As he does so, that bully becomes the kind of bully each room full of victims want him to be. - Then who makes who?
Depression, and remaining helpless, may be what we think about often, but they need not become our state of mind. The answer is, and always will be, responsible action in taking management of our lives and what we expect from others.
Today stretches before me an unknown quantity. Concerns will crowd upon me, but guidance regarding the best action to take, one moment at a time, is within my power by the grace of God.
[By Jim Hogue, MA, MFTI (Supervisor: Peter Mosgofian, MFT)]
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